Sorry for being so M.I.A. ~ What I learned from a much needed break

Truth talk: I am struggling to write these words right now. It is like all my creativity was sucked up with the turkey and eggnog over the holidays. It is always a little hard to get back to work after a long break and it has been some time ( my last blog post was early December). I am finding it hard to find the words, the time, and the ability to focus.

… And alas I turned to the internet 

Google “why is a break good for you”  the answers I got were typical. It helps productivity, lower stress and better mental health.

Yes that all makes sense, but if I just spewed out what I found on the internet, what would be the point of me sitting here writing and you sitting and reading this blog. So let’s go back a little in time shall we.

Before the holidays I was feeling drained. I hadn’t taken a vacation in quite some time, I was traveling a lot for work, I took on a few freelance projects, I was working on my blog, I got sick, I was tired (all the time), I felt overwhelmed.

This lead to me forgetting things, losing things, and running late for things. And so the cycle would continue, the more I forgot and lost the more stressed I would be and then the more I would forget again.

…It was time for a time out

And as usual, the first thing that was cut from my schedule was this blog. The blog has always been a passion project, a place where I can share my experiences, my enjoyments, my travels, and also a place where I can hear from you but it is not my job, it is not how I make a living, it is not my top priority.

Instead of taking the time to write, I took the time to sleep, to play with my new puppy, to clean my new home. I took time to myself.

And then came the break, a week off for the holidays to relax, recovery, and reconnect with myself (and my blog ) so I hoped but instead friends were in and out staying at our house, instead of writing inside I wanted to be outside skiing at Whistler or hiking on a sunny day. And while it was busy with such a full house, I was able to relax by taking time to myself.

…Fast forward to now 

Break is over it is back to reality, back to work, and finally back to writing, but during that time off I realized something very important, how valuable a break truly is.

Sure, I felt all of those things the internet told me I would feel, less stressed, more productive but something the internet didn’t tell me I would feel. I felt relieved. I realized that even if I do take a time off, weeks, months, or longer without writing or posting here it wasn’t going anywhere.

My blog isn’t about the followers, the readers, the subscribers, it is a place for me to be me and it is important to realize that when “me” needs a break, I can take that break and come back feeling inspired, rejuvenated, and while it might be tough to sometimes find the write words, ready to write.

While I am not a big believer in New Year’s Resolutions as they usually include more trips to the gym, eating healthier etc and usually last a month or two into the new year, I decided instead to make some birthday goals ( I mean it is just a day later than New Years).

My goals for myself this year is to not let myself get to a point of exhaustion and recognized when I need a little time out. I am allowing myself to say no if I need to, to be better at scheduling so I am not feeling overwhelmed, and to wake up 10 minutes earlier so I am not constantly rushing out the door.

And so here you have it. Why taking a break for yourself is a good thing, and not just a because google says so.

Did you make any resolutions for this new year or take some time out for yourself over the holidays? Would love to hear your experiences.

Here is to a healthy and happy 2020 my friends,

xo

Mia

The number one tip I have for any bride: Don’t stress about the small things

Saturday September 14th 2019 is my favourite day ever. It is the day my husband (that is so weird to say) and I got married in front of 100 of our closest family and friends. It was the most perfect day. The ceremony was personal and beautiful, the food was delicious, the scenery was picture perfect, the DJ was incredible and had all the guests dancing all night long. It was so much fun and I wouldn’t have changed a thing, but let’s rewind to just before the wedding when I was panicked and told my mom I just wanted to cancel the whole thing.

What went wrong?!

Here is an order of events of everything that went “wrong” leading up to the wedding:

  • 5 weeks out our wedding venue (Sea to Sky Gondola) was sabotaged and we had to find a brand new wedding venue in just a few weeks.
  •  A week leading up to the wedding the head meteorologist at the company I work for (the Weather Network) informed me it was going to rain for our wedding.
  • A few days prior it was calling for 100% rain, and not just rain but the entirely monthly average for September in one day.
  • 3 days before the wedding and I was sick as a dog.
  • 2 days before the wedding one of my closest friends couldn’t get on her flight and had to cancel her trip.
  • The day of the wedding pouring rain, still sick, and the mother of the groom ended up at the wrong wedding venue. Our wedding started an hour late because of this.

Leading up to the wedding I cried, I cried a lot. I was stressed out and I took it all out on my partner. We had screaming matches, we yelled that we should just call things off. It wasn’t fun. This was supposed to be the happiest time of, but we were both exhausted, stressed, and frankly miserable.

We had to have several talks with one another to remind ourselves that this wasn’t about a venue, or weather, it was about sharing our love with the people we love most. That made things a little bit easier to accept and finally at the rehearsal dinner I started to relaxing a little and just realize what ever was going to happen was going to happen on the day of the wedding.

The Wedding Day 

The wedding day came and I walked off the bus to share the first look with my partner, and it seemed like the world stopped spinning. My vail was soaked from the rain, the train of my dress brown from the dirt, but none of that mattered. All that mattered was that today we were going to commit to forever with each other and start this new chapter in our lives because we love each other.

Despite everything that went “wrong” leading up to the event, our wedding was perfect. I wouldn’t have traded in a second of the day for better weather or for our original venue. This wedding was our perfect wedding.

Looking back on it all now, I realized I was truly panicked and stressed for no apparent reason. I couldn’t control the rain, but I could control my attitude towards it and honestly that is my only regret, I wish I had enjoyed the days leading up to the wedding a little more.

So from this veteran bride (of four days) I wanted to offer a piece of advice to any future brides while it is fresh in my mind. Just live in the moment, relax, and realize that everything is going to be just fine. In fact it will be better than fine, it will be perfect.

Your guests aren’t going to remember  bad weather or the ceremony starting late. They are going to remember the love you shared with your husband or wife on this special day.

You can’t change things leading up to the big day, but you can trust the process and realize that at the end of the day the small details are just that, small. Looking back you won’t remember the things that didn’t go according to plan, you will remember the fun, the laughs, the tears, and the love.

Trust me, I know that all this is easier said than done. In fact I kept saying it leading up to the wedding. But if you can find the moment to breathe and let yourself know that everything is going to be beautiful no matter what challenges you face, then you will be able to just enjoy every moment from the lead up to the morning after.

Plus as I learned, rainy weather makes for better photos anyway.

Wishing all my beautiful brides the most perfect wedding day!

xo

Mia

P.S. all photos taken by our amazing photographer Taylor Roades

 

My love/hate relationship with ‘Shredding for the Wedding’

He liked it so much he put a ring on it. That is right I am a fiancée, at least for another three weeks. The moment we got engaged I started looking at venues, dresses, oh and I finally got a gym membership because I had to start “Shredding for the Wedding.”

I had heard that term before used in magazines and by other friends that have gotten married and would always joke about it but now it was my turn and I was determined to shred some pounds for the big day.

I started hitting up the gym at least five times a week, combining my favourite SoulCycle classes, Kondi HIIT classes, F45, you name it I was trying it all, doing it all, and sweating it all out.

On top of upping my fitness game, I was also paying more attention to the food I was eating. Cutting out carbs and sugars and eating smaller more nutritional portions and meals.

In just a matter of weeks I was starting to see the pounds fall off but I also started to notice other changes. I had more energy, my skin was clearer than every before, I was in a happier mood, and feeling more confident about myself overall.

It was in that moment that I didn’t need to shred anything for the wedding, I needed to start living a healthier lifestyle in general for my own well being and personal relationships.

After quitting tennis, I had always been a bit of a yoyo dieter and had always struggled with self image and confidence because I wasn’t the athlete I used to be. However when the wedding came up, I had real motivation to stick to a plan and to better myself.

I am not going to lie, I was disappointed that it took a proposal to motivate me, I should of wanted to do this for myself but at the end of the day at least I got the push I needed and can start this journey back to a healthier me.

The best part about it all, is it has been relatively easy. Sure I wish I could drink an extra glass of wine or indulge in another scoop of ice cream but I haven’t done any actual dieting. I have let myself have cheat days, eat chocolate, drink wine but just in smaller portions. I also enjoy working out but would always make excuses if I got to busy. Since I got engaged I have stopped making excuses and have been making time.

Now the last thing I want anything to do while reading this is think that you need to lose weight if you are getting married, or need to lose weight period. What I want people to realize is that life can get busy and we can get distracted and lose sense of ourselves and that is ok. What is not ok is if we don’t check in every once in a while and reconnect with ourselves and make sure we are taking care of ourselves and if we aren’t well then it is time to make the changes. For me that change was leading a healthier and more active lifestyle and that might not be the same change for you but no matter what it is important to be aware.

I am three weeks away from my wedding and I have lost 20 pounds and am back down to a healthy weight. But besides the pounds I lost I have gained energy, confidence, and overall happiness. So while I don’t necessarily agree with shredding for the wedding, I do agree about shredding for yourself, or really anything for yourself if it is going to improve yourself.

xo

Mia

5 Reasons you should get a wedding planner

It was just five weeks until our wedding when everything came crashing down quite literally. My wedding planner texted me the news that the Sea to Sky Gondola’s cable had been cut and now the wedding that had been planning for almost a full year wasn’t going to happen. I was gutted, devastated, and heartbroken. I threw myself a pity party and cried throughout the weekend but then realized I had an amazing fiance, friend group, family, and wedding planner and we would be able to pull together a fairytale in the five weeks we had.

While friends and family were amazing support and helped me from going crazy, it was our amazing wedding planner Caroline Hyatt that made all the difference because she actually knew vendors, helped set up meetings, and got really creative with ideas since this is her job after all. Even before this disaster struck, I felt our planner was the best money we spent during this wedding process and I wanted to share why it is important to consider a wedding planner for your big day.

 

1. They are there for you for disasters

I honestly don’t know what I would of done without Caroline during this whole situation. While I cried for three days straight, she managed to reschedule five weddings in three days. She helped all of us stay calm, asked what was the most important factors for a new venue and got to work. She wanted to make sure we didn’t sacrifice our dream wedding because of the situation. I told her a background of mountains was very important to me and within hours she had four venues in the mountains ready for me to visit.

2. Their job is to take the stress off of you

Even before the most stressful wedding planning moment, there were little situations here and there that were stressing me out. Everything from the hotel not making the right bookings to trying to accommodate all of our food allergies, she was on top of it and made sure that we didn’t have to handle these situations and could instead just focus on the happiest time of our lives.

3. She knows how to get deals or good prices

Trust me, when you book a wedding planner, it usually isn’t her first rodeo (unless you are her very first wedding). Also a lot of them specialize in a certain area (ours Squamish) so they have developed relationships. She would know where you could find the best deals on the exact decorations, rentals, desserts, you name it that you dreamed of having on your big day. I feel like at the end of the day we almost saved money (and definitely time) by taking out the research part.

4. They help keep your budget and your to do list in check

Wedding planning is stressful. Then try plan a wedding, work your full time job, and move into a house (ya that wasn’t the smartest thing we have ever done). Sometimes you can get lost in all the craziness and then all of a sudden you have forgot to pay your officiant or book the makeup artists you wanted, or you accidentally went way over budget on your flowers. Every month Caroline sends us our check ins to make sure that we are ahead of the game and don’t miss a beat.

5. They bring your vision to life

You have enough things to worry about like how to keep uncle Joe and cousin Joanna on opposite ends of the table or letting your friend know they cannot bring a plus one they have only been dating a week. Making sure that everything is delivered on time and set up in the right spot. She will make sure your day goes off without a hitch no matter what you have had to go through to get down the aisle.

Happy wedding planning my friends,

xo

Mia

5 tips to maximize your bedtime skin routine

When it comes to your skin routine, we all know there’s one part which is possibly more important than all the others put together. And that’s the bedtime skin routine.

At the end of a long day, it can be really tempting to just get those comfies on and sink into bed without taking your make-up off – but it’s absolutely vital that you get into a regular skin routine at night to avoid any nasty skin issues further down the line.

1. Know your Skin type

First thing’s first, you need to know your own skinreally know it.

Many of us are confused about what skin type we have, so if you’re unsure, get yourself down to your local beauty counter and get some help. From this, you’ll be able to select the best products which will be kind to your skin and work hardest to keep it looking its best.

2.  Use Cleanser

Cleanser, or cleansing wipes if you’d prefer, are an easy way to get rid of all the day’s impurities – make-up, pollution, and even sand if you’re lucky enough to live on the coast.

Use soft cotton make-up pads if you’d prefer to use a liquid cleanser, being careful not to apply too much (as your skin will struggle to absorb the moisture).

Be extra careful around the eye area, it’s super delicate!

2.  Exfoliate

Many people are scared to even touch their face with an exfoliant, but it’s not the enemy (in fact, it’s far from it).

Exfoliating our facial skin (gently!), is an easy way to keep it clean, buffing away any dead cells or dirt which could cause issues if left in the pores.

Use a sensitive one if you’re new to the world of exfoliating, and be gentle, moving upwards in small circular movements. The result – fresh, clean skin!

4. Explore New Products

So many of us are guilty for sticking to the same products, even if they’re no longer suitable for our skin. Like our bodies, our skin changes as we age, so using the same product at 29 as you did at 22 may not be the best approach.

Once you’ve established your skin type, explore new product ranges to ensure you’re getting the most out of your skincare. More and more consumers are now taking the cruelty-free approach, and you should do the same. In fact, a recent study found more than 35% of women only bought from brands who didn’t test on animals – it’s the best way.

 

5. Know Your Water

Before using any products, wash your face with warm water. The temperature helps to open up your pores, making it easier to remove any dirt or grime.

After completing your routine, splash your face with cold water and pat dry with a clean, soft towel. The cold water (not too cold!) will close the pores up again, preventing your skin from absorbing any additional nasties in the night.

 

This is a contributed post written by Dale White