My love/hate relationship with ‘Shredding for the Wedding’

He liked it so much he put a ring on it. That is right I am a fiancée, at least for another three weeks. The moment we got engaged I started looking at venues, dresses, oh and I finally got a gym membership because I had to start “Shredding for the Wedding.”

I had heard that term before used in magazines and by other friends that have gotten married and would always joke about it but now it was my turn and I was determined to shred some pounds for the big day.

I started hitting up the gym at least five times a week, combining my favourite SoulCycle classes, Kondi HIIT classes, F45, you name it I was trying it all, doing it all, and sweating it all out.

On top of upping my fitness game, I was also paying more attention to the food I was eating. Cutting out carbs and sugars and eating smaller more nutritional portions and meals.

In just a matter of weeks I was starting to see the pounds fall off but I also started to notice other changes. I had more energy, my skin was clearer than every before, I was in a happier mood, and feeling more confident about myself overall.

It was in that moment that I didn’t need to shred anything for the wedding, I needed to start living a healthier lifestyle in general for my own well being and personal relationships.

After quitting tennis, I had always been a bit of a yoyo dieter and had always struggled with self image and confidence because I wasn’t the athlete I used to be. However when the wedding came up, I had real motivation to stick to a plan and to better myself.

I am not going to lie, I was disappointed that it took a proposal to motivate me, I should of wanted to do this for myself but at the end of the day at least I got the push I needed and can start this journey back to a healthier me.

The best part about it all, is it has been relatively easy. Sure I wish I could drink an extra glass of wine or indulge in another scoop of ice cream but I haven’t done any actual dieting. I have let myself have cheat days, eat chocolate, drink wine but just in smaller portions. I also enjoy working out but would always make excuses if I got to busy. Since I got engaged I have stopped making excuses and have been making time.

Now the last thing I want anything to do while reading this is think that you need to lose weight if you are getting married, or need to lose weight period. What I want people to realize is that life can get busy and we can get distracted and lose sense of ourselves and that is ok. What is not ok is if we don’t check in every once in a while and reconnect with ourselves and make sure we are taking care of ourselves and if we aren’t well then it is time to make the changes. For me that change was leading a healthier and more active lifestyle and that might not be the same change for you but no matter what it is important to be aware.

I am three weeks away from my wedding and I have lost 20 pounds and am back down to a healthy weight. But besides the pounds I lost I have gained energy, confidence, and overall happiness. So while I don’t necessarily agree with shredding for the wedding, I do agree about shredding for yourself, or really anything for yourself if it is going to improve yourself.

xo

Mia

5 Reasons you should get a wedding planner

It was just five weeks until our wedding when everything came crashing down quite literally. My wedding planner texted me the news that the Sea to Sky Gondola’s cable had been cut and now the wedding that had been planning for almost a full year wasn’t going to happen. I was gutted, devastated, and heartbroken. I threw myself a pity party and cried throughout the weekend but then realized I had an amazing fiance, friend group, family, and wedding planner and we would be able to pull together a fairytale in the five weeks we had.

While friends and family were amazing support and helped me from going crazy, it was our amazing wedding planner Caroline Hyatt that made all the difference because she actually knew vendors, helped set up meetings, and got really creative with ideas since this is her job after all. Even before this disaster struck, I felt our planner was the best money we spent during this wedding process and I wanted to share why it is important to consider a wedding planner for your big day.

 

1. They are there for you for disasters

I honestly don’t know what I would of done without Caroline during this whole situation. While I cried for three days straight, she managed to reschedule five weddings in three days. She helped all of us stay calm, asked what was the most important factors for a new venue and got to work. She wanted to make sure we didn’t sacrifice our dream wedding because of the situation. I told her a background of mountains was very important to me and within hours she had four venues in the mountains ready for me to visit.

2. Their job is to take the stress off of you

Even before the most stressful wedding planning moment, there were little situations here and there that were stressing me out. Everything from the hotel not making the right bookings to trying to accommodate all of our food allergies, she was on top of it and made sure that we didn’t have to handle these situations and could instead just focus on the happiest time of our lives.

3. She knows how to get deals or good prices

Trust me, when you book a wedding planner, it usually isn’t her first rodeo (unless you are her very first wedding). Also a lot of them specialize in a certain area (ours Squamish) so they have developed relationships. She would know where you could find the best deals on the exact decorations, rentals, desserts, you name it that you dreamed of having on your big day. I feel like at the end of the day we almost saved money (and definitely time) by taking out the research part.

4. They help keep your budget and your to do list in check

Wedding planning is stressful. Then try plan a wedding, work your full time job, and move into a house (ya that wasn’t the smartest thing we have ever done). Sometimes you can get lost in all the craziness and then all of a sudden you have forgot to pay your officiant or book the makeup artists you wanted, or you accidentally went way over budget on your flowers. Every month Caroline sends us our check ins to make sure that we are ahead of the game and don’t miss a beat.

5. They bring your vision to life

You have enough things to worry about like how to keep uncle Joe and cousin Joanna on opposite ends of the table or letting your friend know they cannot bring a plus one they have only been dating a week. Making sure that everything is delivered on time and set up in the right spot. She will make sure your day goes off without a hitch no matter what you have had to go through to get down the aisle.

Happy wedding planning my friends,

xo

Mia